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我要特别提一件事情，并且表达感谢之意的，就是在妈妈住院期间，然后接回家中，一直到往生助念，火化，我的学生杨春茶都帮忙拍下了影音记录，当时不觉得有什么特别，现在都成为弥足珍贵的资料。当时我们兄弟专注在陪伴及照顾妈妈，没有想到要特别留下什么记录，而春茶已有陪伴自己妈妈往生的经验，知道留下记录的重大意义。非常感谢春茶的用心记录，我在写这篇文章的时候，那些影音记录成为非常重要的依据，不然的话，光凭回忆是不够清楚明确的，这就应验了李商隐的诗句：“此情可待成追忆，只是当时已惘然。”
I would like to specially mention and express my gratitude to my student Yang Chun Cha. Chun Cha had helped to take audio and video records the moment when my mother was hospitalized, transferred back home, passed on and the ritual and cremation. I did not feel anything special but later we realised that the recordings had became valuable information. At that time, my brothers and I only concerned of taking care of our mother, we did not aware that we need to do the audio/video recording. Chun Cha had gone through the process of accompany his dying mother and thus he knew the importance and significance of those recordings. I am very grateful of his intention, which became very important supporting when I wrote this article. Otherwise, it is not possible to remember everything cleary. As quoted by poet Li Shang Yin: “此情可待成追忆，只是当时已惘然。” (it is too late to treasure when it has became a memory, treasure and know its importance now.)
还有一件关乎亲人往生，具有重大意义的项目，我要提供给各位读者分享的，就是在感恩追思会之前，我们家人想要为妈妈的一生留下可供大家怀念的珍贵记录，但是因为经历过几次搬家，许多珍贵的老照片，都不知道放到哪里去了。结果二弟开宪通宵达旦，翻箱倒柜地找到一些千金不换的老照片，再由弟妹沈冬彻夜撰写追思文案，画龙点睛地记录了妈妈平凡却精彩的一生，在追思会当天的会场外布展，让我们家人，亲友和来宾们倍感温馨。
Another significant thing to share with readers here, that is before organizing a memorial ceremony for my mother, we wanted to share with visitors about her precious moments. However, we moved (house) a few times, we had lost many old photos. As a result, my second brother Kai Xian searched overnight for those photos meantime my sister-in-law Shen Dong wrote a memorial article. Those photos and article were exhibited at the memorial hall. All this effort had displayed my mother's ordinary but wonderful life and added a warm finishing touch to the ceremony.
因此，我要提醒读者，为亲人的生平以及最后的时光，用心留下珍贵的记录，事后会多一分追思与怀念，少一分追悔与遗憾。
Thus, I would like to remind readers to intentionally capture and keep the precious moments of our loved ones, so we can have more for remembrance and reduce the chances of regreting in the future.
Thus, I would like to remind readers to intentionally capture and keep the precious moments of our loved ones, so we can have more for remembrance and reduce the chances of regreting in the future.
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